Migratory Grief: Why Do We Miss a Life We Chose to Leave Behind?

Migratory grief happens because migration is not only about gaining something new - it is also about letting something go.

Even when the decision is intentional and deeply desired, there are losses, such as:

• the constant presence of loved ones;

• the familiarity of everyday life;

• using your native language effortlessly;

• the immediate feeling of belonging.

That's why longing appears. And it often comes unexpectedly: through a familiar scent, a song, or an ordinary date on the calendar.

It's important to remember:

• missing your home doesn't mean you regret your decision;

• feeling sad doesn't invalidate your choice;

• you can love your new country and still miss the one you left behind.

Ways to care for yourself:

• create small rituals that keep you connected to your culture (food, music, language);

• talk about your feelings without judging yourself;

• nurture meaningful relationships with people from your country of origin;

• give your losses a name (this helps your mind organize the emotional experience).

Migratory grief is not something to "get over" quickly. It is something to integrate into your life.